ISSUE #3: Resistance to Doing EFT
Welcome to Issue #3 of the Attracting Abundance Newsletter. The topic is Resistance to Doing EFT.
*** DON'T MISS 5 NEW ANNOUNCEMENTS BELOW***
I regularly give homework assignments to my clients and class participants only to find that some of them won't do the tapping in between sessions! Even after experiencing clear progress in the session or class, they get a strange form of amnesia and say "well, it didn't really work for me."
No matter how clear I am, how many word for word instructions I write down, there are still some people who are "resistant" to following through. This basic form of resistance might be present for a number of reasons such as fear of change, psychological reversal, oppositional behavior, or just feelings of being overwhelmed.
For therapists and EFT practitioners, the most important thing to remember is DON'T GET FRUSTRATED with your clients for being resistant! See it as simple feedback, or of course if you have already gotten frustrated, tap on it :)
We have all been (and will all be again) resistant about making changes in our lives. The trick is to accept the resistance and build it into the work. For non-practitioners, please be patient with yourself and use the EFT statements below to clear this issue. All of us need to accept this as much as any other hurdle in our work or personal life.
Below you will find EFT Setup Phrases followed by two rounds (one negative and one positive) for this newsletter's topic, Resistance to Doing EFT.
1. EFT SETUP PHRASES
The EFT SETUP Phrases for this topic are as follows:
While tapping the karate chop spot on either hand, repeat these phrases out loud, (or change the words to fit your exact situation).
"Even though I feel resistant to doing the tapping, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway."
"Even though I feel hopeless because nothing ever seems to work for me, I choose to accept that I don't want to do it."
"Even though I have been sabotaging my progress by refusing to do the tapping, I choose to accept whatever conflicts underlie my resistance."
I have indicated where to tap while saying each of the phrases below. You may repeat this round more than once if you wish. (Those of you who are new to EFT may view a chart of the spots on my web site under the EFT pages.)
***Now, for the phrases that focus on the problem***
Eyebrow: "I haven't been tapping and I don't know why."
Side of Eye: "I don't want to do the tapping."
Under Eye: "It seems like a waste of time."
Nose: "A part of me feels afraid to change."
Chin: "What if I do it wrong?"
Collarbone: "I refuse to do this silly tapping!"
Under Arm: "What if it works for everyone but me?"
Head: "I don't want to do it so leave me alone."
***Now for the positive focus on the solution***
Eyebrow: "I choose to accept myself even though I'm not tapping."
Side of Eye: "I love myself even though I won't do my homework."
Under Eye: "I choose to feel safe even if EFT scares me."
Nose: "I am ready to tap now even though I don't think it will work."
Chin: "I am ready to tap every day even if I don't like it."
Collarbone: "I appreciate the resistant parts of me and respect what they are trying to tell me."
Under Arm: "I'm glad my resistance is in the past now."
Head: "I can't believe how much I enjoy and look forward to the tapping!"
2. RECOMMENDATIONS AND TIPS:
I recommend that you follow the above positive round with a round of alternating statements, or what I call the "Yes/No" process. This shakes up your mind a little, but more importantly, it gives you a chance to say no and not feel controlled. I have seen it work wonders especially when there is resistance. Skip the karate chop point and start at the eyebrow point again. Tap through all of these statements at least once. There is one for each point from the eyebrow point to the top of the head.
"I refuse to do the tapping..."
"I love tapping..."
"I won't tap..."
"Yes I will..."
"No, don't make me..."
"I can't wait to tap..."
"I refuse to tap for you..."
"I choose to tap for me."
Another Recommendation...
Use the above tapping exercise while looking in the mirror. You may feel surprised by what new feelings come up, but try it and note your feelings.
A Repeat Recommendation...
I am repeating below the recommendation from my last newsletter. Obviously the Gratitude exercises are near and dear to my heart. Please try them and take note of any changes in your life that prove how powerful they are.
Last newsletter's message:
Since two of the most powerful exercises in my life have been the Gratitude Walk and the Gratitude List, both listed in my e-book, "Attracting Abundance with EFT," I am recommending that you keep a Gratitude List in a special journal for yourself this month.
Every day, morning noon or night, write a short list of everything you feel grateful for or what you appreciate. (Yes, it is just another version of the Gratitude Walk I recommended in my last newsletter.) Writing down what you feel grateful for is incredibly powerful. If you only had time for one extra technique a day, I would recommend this one. Purchase a special notebook for this exercise to communicate respect to yourself and for the process. You may spend anywhere from 3-30 minutes on your list. Make it real, and enjoy the momentum of positive energy.
Rules of the Game:
The only rule to this abundance game is as follows:
Never make it up---if you don't feel grateful for your spouse, your job or your friends today, leave them off the list.
3. ANNOUNCEMENTS:
3-1. Monday May 16th, 3:00 Eastern Time:
When I was asked to develop and host a new series for an "internet radio" show by an executive producer at Voice America, I said YES! without a moment's hesitation. The shows haven't even started yet, but I have enjoyed setting them up and I feel thrilled about this opportunity. The title of the 13 week series is: "Attracting Abundance: The Energy of Success." The show airs at 3:00 p.m. EDT every Monday afternoon from May 16th through August 22nd. (This accounts for holidays when there will be repeats of earlier broadcasts.)
The first show will be broadcast LIVE over the internet on Monday May 16th at 3:00 p.m. Eastern Time. I am honored to announce that my guest is EFT Founder Gary Craig, and the topic is "The Palace of Possibilities." To tune in "LIVE" at the designated time of the show, go to http://www.health.voiceamerica.com. Some of you may even wish to call in to ask Gary a question. The call-in phone number will be provided on the site. Each week the show will be rebroadcast later the same day, and of course the series will be available through archives on the Voice America's web site as well as mine.
3-2. Saturday June 4th, 2005:
I will be teaching a one-day class called Attracting Abundance with EFT from 10:00--4:30 on Saturday, June 4th in New York City. This class is being sponsored by the Center for Spirituality and Psychotherapy.
I will be teaching how to combine EFT, the Law of Attraction and Abundance Games to maximize your ability to magnetize abundance and prosperity into your life. While these classes are always fun and attract a great group of participants, you will "take away" very practical tools, recipes, exercises and demonstrations to change your life. If you are really ready to embrace abundance in every part of your life, please join me.
To Register, call N.I.P. at (212) 582-1566 and ask for C.S.P. Continuing Ed.
3-3. The Cheryl Richardson Interview:
As most of you know, I was interviewed by New York Times Best Selling author Cheryl Richardson about my new e-book "Attracting Abundance with EFT." Cheryl was a regular Oprah guest and has written a beautiful new book called The Unmistakable Touch of Grace. For those of you who are interested in listening in to the interview, you may call into an audiopodium at (918) 222-7201, box number 439 any time day or night between now and May 15th. For more information on Cheryl's work, go to http://www.cherylrichardson.com.
3-4. Upcoming Advanced EFT Workshops with Steve Wells and Dr. David Lake from Australia:
Vancouver, BC Workshops:
June 4-5: EFT and The Power of Self-Acceptance: "In this uniquely humorous, amazingly different and emotionally engaging experiential workshop, you’ll learn the astounding power of true self-acceptance and how it can lead you to a place of profound personal peace."
June 6-7: The New Psychology of Peak Performance: "A workshop to transform your dreams into reality."
Albuquerque, NM Workshop:
June 10-13: Provocative Energy Techniques (PET): "PET combines advanced patterns of EFT with the humorous and paradoxical communication style and techniques of Provocative Therapy and Brief Therapy."
For more details on any of the above workshops, go to: http://www.eftdownunder.com/events.html.
3-5. HOT OFF THE PRESS: New audio CDs, "Attracting Abundance with EFT"
I sold the first copies of my exciting new CDs this weekend at the Energy Psychology conference in Baltimore. This 4 CD set tracks a group of 3 men and 6 women during a day long class in my office as they learn how to (1) Clear Limiting Beliefs (2) Build Prosperity Consciousness (3) Activate the Law of Attraction, and (4) Claim Abundance. This new audio CD set provides 5 hours of EFT instruction to clear blocks to abundance. They can be ordered though http://attractingabundance.com/store.html.
If you have any questions, please feel free to email me at Carol@CarolLook.com.
Thanks,
Carol
http://www.attractingabundance.com