ISSUE #10: I Want To Fit In...
Welcome to Issue #10 of the Attracting Abundance Newsletter.
***Hot off the presses!! My e-book "Attracting Abundance with EFT" is now available in paperback through the publisher***
***On August 22 at 3:00 pm EDT, I will interview Energy Psychology innovator Dr. David Feinstein. Listen in at http://www.health.voiceamerica.com.***
*** On August 23 at 10:00 am EDT, Patricia Crilly will interview me (Carol Look) about EFT on her new show, "B positive" http://www.health.voiceamerica.com.***
I have never met a human being who hasn't yearned to fit in at some time or another, or who hasn't experienced the pain of NOT fitting in at a vulnerable point in his/her life. I have some clients who swear to me that they have never fit in...
What does this have to do with attracting abundance? If you break through your comfort zones, erase your limiting beliefs, and soar to the top of your field, surpassing all your peers financially and professionally, will you feel as if you still fit in? Who will be competitive? Who might take a "potshot" at you? Of course I could have just as easily called this newsletter I Don't Want To Stand Out. Will you stand out in a way that makes you and others feel uncomfortable? Unfortunately, I know firsthand what other people's jealousy makes them say and do. But these insecure people who believe in luck have no power, even when they try to block our success.
In other words, there is a risk to erasing all the yes, buts... and I don't deserve patterns that get in the way of your abundance. I always ask my clients: "What is the DOWNSIDE to your becoming more successful?" At first they deny there is a downside, then slowly but surely, they recall fears, hurts, or experiences from before when someone else was uncomfortable with their success. Or they have clear visions of how someone might feel about their success. How will your friends react if they feel as if you have left them behind? How will you fit in if your career (or love life or health) takes a giant leap forward? While many of you may be skeptical that this issue applies to you, keep asking yourself how things might be different---what will change---and who might have a problem with that.
Fear of not fitting in is of course a "tappable issue" in terms of EFT. First, you need to identify the yes, but...in terms of your own success.
Finish this sentence: "I want to attract avalanches of abundance and be completely financially wealthy (healthy, happy, strong, rich, thin, in love...) except for one thing/one person:"
I'm afraid he/she will feel............................................
I'm afraid they will ....................................................
What if they say ........................................................
What if they accuse me of............................................
Then use the answers to these questions for your specific tapping sequences. In the meantime, you may use the ones below and tweak them to fit you.
PAST NEWSLETTERS
I highly recommend that newcomers review past issues of this newsletter. Reading them and tapping along will help you break through comfort zones very quickly. Past newsletters can be viewed by going to the following page: http://www.attractingabundance.com/newsletters/.
Below you will find EFT Setup Phrases followed by two rounds (one negative and one positive) for this newsletter's topic, I Want To Fit In.
1. EFT SETUP PHRASES
The EFT SETUP Phrases for this topic are as follows:
While tapping the karate chop spot on either hand, repeat these phrases out loud, (or change the words to fit your exact situation).
"Even though I don't want them to reject me if I am more successful, I choose to relax and enjoy the journey."
"Even though I'm afraid they might be jealous or angry, I choose to mind my own business."
"Even though I know some people are going to have a hard time with my success, I choose to allow them to have their feelings."
I have indicated where to tap while saying each of the phrases below. You may repeat this round more than once if you wish. (Those of you who are new to EFT may view a chart of the spots on my web site under the EFT pages.)
***Now, for the phrases that focus on the problem***
Eyebrow: "I'm afraid of their reactions."
Side of Eye: "They didn't like my success last time."
Under Eye: "I'd rather fit in than attract abundance."
Nose: "I'm afraid of what might change."
Chin: "I wonder if they are going to be mean to me."
Collarbone: "I have always wanted to fit in."
Under Arm: "It feels like too big a risk to change."
Head: "I have this conflict about attracting abundance."
***Now for the positive focus on the solution***
Eyebrow: "I know I am supposed to be abundant."
Side of Eye: "What they think of me is none of my business."
Under Eye: "I appreciate the abundance I already have and am looking forward to more."
Nose: "I choose to believe we are all worthy of abundance."
Chin: "I enjoy feeling wonderfully prosperous even if it bothers them."
Collarbone: "I choose to find new ways to fit in."
Under Arm: "I am so grateful for the opportunities I have to share my wealth and abundance."
Head: "I love knowing that receiving abundance is right for all of us."
Then tap on the following phrases as you complete one more round:
I love knowing we all deserve abundance...
I choose to believe in the guidance I am receiving...
I appreciate the prosperity in my life...
I love appreciating my friends...
I'm grateful for all the new opportunities for abundance...
I feel free to appreciate my life...
I appreciate exactly who I am...
I am so grateful for my newfound belief in prosperity.
2. RECOMMENDATIONS AND TIPS:
Recommendation:
CASH COMFORT: Here is a fun game to try: Write out a check made payable to yourself for 10,000 dollars. Notice what feelings you have about this, what doubts you feel about whether depositing this amount in your account is possible or not. Tap on any feelings you have while holding this check in your hand. Then move up in dollar amounts... Write the next check out for 25,000 dollars, then 50,000 dollars, then 100,000 dollars, then 1,000,000 dollars, all the while tapping on the anxious feelings you have about receiving this amount of money.
If you feel as if you do not deserve the money, you have identified a clear block that you need to neutralize before any more money is going to materialize in your life. Use tapping phrases such as "Even though I still don't feel deserving..."
Remember what the metaphysical texts say about consciousness: You will attract into your exterior life what you are vibrating in your internal consciousness. If you see yourself as someone who never makes more than 50,000 dollars a year, that's what will manifest in your life.
Pay close attention to the feelings that surface while you are writing out these checks. (Some of you will need to start with smaller amounts such as 500 or 1,000.) The point is to get so relaxed while holding these large checks made payable to you, that you loosen any resistance you have about accepting financial abundance.
Tip:
Set aside 5 minutes, 3 times a day and tap on any uncomfortable feelings you have had throughout your day. Tap for any remaining anger at your boss, irritation with your spouse, annoyance at the kids, and anxiety about work, money or your health, etc. The point is to make tapping a routine in your life. This is such a simple tip and so worthwhile, but many people resist it due to blocks about getting over their emotional conflicts. Do you have blocks about getting well? Getting better? Becoming more financially stable? Keep tapping...
Other tips, recommendations and games can be found in my e-book, "Attracting Abundance with EFT."
3. ANNOUNCEMENTS:
3-1. Abundance Class in New York City
I am working out the final details to teach a 3-hour evening class Attracting Abundance with EFT in September in New York City. Stay tuned for details in the next issue of this newsletter. For the new paperback version of "Attracting Abundance with EFT" go directly to the publisher.
3-2. Monday August 22 and Tuesday August 23, 2005: 3:00 pm Eastern Time
Those of you who are new subscribers may not know that I have been hosting a series on the Internet Radio station, http://www.health.VoiceAmerica.com. The title of the series is: "Attracting Abundance: The Energy of Success." The show airs at 3:00 pm Eastern Time every Monday afternoon. To those of you who have been tuning in, I appreciate your enthusiastic feedback!
On Monday August 22, I will interview Energy Medicine innovator, author and speaker, Dr. David Feinstein. I encourage you to visit David's excellent website full of resources: http://www.InnerSource.net. Check out his award-winning interactive CD program that teaches clinicians how to introduce Energy Psychology to their clients.
On Tuesday August 23, 10:00 am Eastern Time, I will be interviewed by Patricia Crilly on her new show "B Positive." Go to http://www.health.voiceamerica.com.
To tune in "LIVE" at the designated time of the show, 3:00 pm Eastern Time, go to http://www.health.voiceamerica.com. The call-in phone number is (866) 369-3742. Each week the show will be rebroadcast several other times during the week.
Past interview guests are listed below, and their interviews can be heard by accessing my archive page:
- EFT founder Gary Craig talking about the Palace of Possibilities: http://www.EmoFree.com.
- Bob Doyle, host and founder of http://www.WealthBeyondReason.com.
- Dr. Alex Lees of Vancouver on Self-Esteem: http://www.DrAlexLees.com.
- Australian EFT expert Steve Wells on the topic of peak performance: http://www.EFTDownUnder.com.
- Dr. Henry Grayson talking about how to improve relationships: http://www.MindfulLoving.com.
- Cheryl Richardson, the country's leading life coach, Oprah guest and New York Times bestselling author, on her views and experiences with EFT. For more on Cheryl and her work, visit http://www.CherylRichardson.com.
- Paul Bauer, abundance expert and host of http://www.DreamsAlive.com
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- Gary Craig on the topic of "Why EFT works for Pain and Physical Ailments." Visit EmoFree.com
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- Jon Gordon, author of Energy Addict, 101 ways to improve your energy physically, mentally and spiritually. Reach Jon at EnergyAddict.com
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- Mike Dooley, creator of the audio CD program, Infinite Possibilities: The Art of Living Your Dreams and host of TUT.com
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- Guest Host Rick Wilkes interviewed Carol Look about Attracting Abundance with EFT.
- Paul Cutright, author (with his wife Layne) of You're Never Upset For the Reason You Think, and creator of http://www.EnlightenedPartners.com on improving relationships. Go to http://www.YoureNeverUpset.com for this excellent, healing book on relationships.
Access the archive versions of all past shows "on demand" at http://www.CarolLook.com/voiceamerica.
3-3. Toronto Energy Psychology Conference:
As part of the annual Toronto Energy Psychology Conference in November, I will be teaching a one-day class called "Magnetic Attraction with EFT: Attracting Abundance with the Energy of Love and Gratitude."
As usual, Conference Leader Sharon Toole has put together an impressive list of speakers including:(1) Stanford engineer, William Tiller; (2) self-esteem pioneer, Nathaniel Branden; (3) alternative medicine researcher, Jerry Wesch, PhD; (4) cardiologist and author, Bruno Cortis, MD; and (5) social scientist and futurist, J.J. Hurtak, PhD.
To sign up for pre-conference classes or to attend the entire conference, please go to http://www.TorontoEPC.com.
3-4. National Institute for the Application of Behavioral Medicine (NICABM)
I have been invited to teach a 16-lesson online EFT course called "Weight Loss with Energy Therapy" for NICABM from September 19 to November 11. To register, go to NICABM. Throughout the 16 lessons, I will teach the class participants how to use EFT with their clients to reduce cravings, neutralize limiting beliefs, eliminate sabotage behavior and prevent relapse. The special CODE for a $50 discount is E05372.
I will also be teaching a 3-day beginner's and advanced EFT course in December at NICABM's annual conference on Hilton Head Island in South Carolina. Sign up through NICABM. Listen in to the brief audio postcard I recorded about the conference.)
If there are any specific topics you would like me to address, feel free to drop me an email and I will add it to my list for future newsletters.
Again, I appreciate those of you who have taken the time to write me about your experiences and successes.
If you have any questions, please feel free to email me at Carol@CarolLook.com.
Thanks,
Carol
http://www.attractingabundance.com
(Disclaimer: While EFT has been used by thousands of therapists, nurses, social workers, psychologists, doctors, and individuals worldwide with exceptional results and minimal negative side effects, this does not mean that you will not experience any side effects. If you use EFT on yourself or others, you are advised to take full responsibility for yourself and the treatment.)